I quit caring... and it feels GREAT!

I had a big realization at a playdate today. One of those delayed (due to lack of coffee) reactions that lead to a life changing paradigm shift.

It happened when I saw another mom tell her 16 month old that she wasn't going to nurse her. It hit me that I had already fed T twice in an hour, once because she was hungry and once because she fell (boobs for boo boos!). Then another mom confessed that she was embarrassed that she co-slept with her son during naps. T has slept in a crib twice when she was a week old. Not thinking much of these small events I went about the rest of my day, doing my thing with my baby.

And then it hit me. I parent totally my way. I follow no one else. I go with my gut and my gut only. I have really learned, partly out of necessity, to just quit caring what other people think. I had always felt judged when discussing parenting. We do it differently. In our world we are extreme, weird and wrong. But I always knew we were doing what was best for T. I do, whats right, for my child, my self, my husband, my family. I have learned balance mommy relationships while being oblivious to how other people parent!

I wish all moms could feel this way. These mommy wars can be intense. Being able to turn off the drama (mostly in my head) has made me the mom I have always wanted to be. So maybe instead of trying to get people to see our parenting points, we should just focus on our own lives and just quit caring!

How do they do this?!?

I love mom bloggers.
They make me laugh, make me cry, make me feel normal when they write about things I only think about! One thing that amazes me is how they find time. I'm a mom to just a one child, with a husband and a small house and I can't find the time to think about issues let alone write about them. I'm always in amazement of how eloquent, impactful and soulful mom bloggers can be. They tackle topics that are near and dear to my heart. They are passionate, respectful (most of the time!) and can explain things in my language. I always feel like I have a lingering smell of poop on me, I'm only convincing when I yell, and the topics I care about only pertain to me and very few other people in my life!

I'm going to try harder to write more. To research more and write about what I care about. I want to write freely, purposefully and happily! The key is to find the time, topics, and once and for all finding out where that smell of poop is coming from!